Since the hair pulling came up on twitter, this is an example of what I’m talking about:
“If you win your fight to understand me, perhaps you will tell me why, after all of these years, it is you. You, with your way of looking down upon me, and with your raw pride.” Her hand slid into his hair and fisted. She yanked him closer, until his eyes were level with hers. Her face hardened, and he knew the pain she caused was deliberate. “A part of me would like to destroy you. Would like to rip you apart, so that I never imagine how you see me from your great height.” (Irena to Alejandro, circa 1590 AD)
Also, this is one of my new favorite reference books: THE ILLUSTRATED HISTORY OF WEAPONRY. It’s not very detailed beyond era, location, and materials, but it has great pictures, which I always appreciate. After I find a few weapons that interest me, it’s an easy thing to do further research on them, and decide whether a specific weapon is appropriate for the story/character.